Use Small Gestures to Demonstrate Compassion

Above all, your spouse wants to know you’re there for them when needed. They desire your support, companionship, laughter, love, and encouragement. You should pray for their strength, wisdom, and health for multiple reasons. For one, it’s God’s design for marriage. For two, happy and healthy spouses enjoy sex more often.

Do little things to help streamline their day and stick to the schedule. Leave a loving note, do some light housekeeping, or run an errand to show solidarity. Your small gestures can greatly impact the relationship, especially if you get the timing right.

Sometimes, people just need the situation put into perspective by someone else. Or they want to hear positive reinforcement because the busy season can be nerve-racking. Learn your spouse’s love language to determine a compassionate approach. Then integrate subtly kind acts based on how they prefer to receive them.

TIP: Discover new sensations to share with your partner and track how they respond.

• Reach Out and Touch Them
  Physical touch is critical in a Christian marriage. After all, you wouldn’t let a perfect stranger grope your body like your spouse does. Marital intimacy depends on an unspoken trust between you, so take advantage when appropriate.
  
  Sneak a little squeeze, poke, or tickle in passing. Or use alone time to give each other sensual massages for stress relief and foreplay. Bring sex toys, vibrators, sex furniture, oils and lotions for the most satisfying experience. Let your partner know they’re always on your mind.
• Schedule Appointments Together  
  Special occasions can require micromanaging every minute of the day. Why not pencil in some time with your better half? You don’t need hours to spend quality time together. There are multiple strategies for pulling something together before the big day.
  
  Here’s a saucy suggestion: wear sexy lingerie or body jewelry beneath your clothes. Then reveal the surprise to your spouse when you find a moment for flirting. This will count as foreplay and help excite your lover for fun later in the evening.
• Do Some of the Heavy Lifting 
  Acts of service can come in many forms when showing love to your partner. You don’t have to exhaust or overwhelm yourself in the process. Doing some of the mundane stuff for your spouse can look like this:
• Running Essential Errands
• Taxiing Loved Ones
• Picking Up Items for Events
• Following Up with Guests 
• Making Meals and Snacks
• Helping with Housework 
• Attending to the Children 
• Planning Date Night
• Scheduling Reminders
• Managing Minor Details

Be your spouse’s accountability partner with selfless favors and a flirty demeanor. Then be patient if the schedule changes or you need to rethink the approach.

• Tell Them How You Feel
  The busy season might not leave much room for in-person interactions. So, share your thoughts and emotions to maintain a healthy relationship. Communicate your admiration, respect, and attraction through phone calls, emails, and text messaging. You can also leave love notes or pass messages through a third party for more mystery.
  
  Having trouble expressing yourself in meaningful ways? Take the initiative with online marriage courses for Christian couples. There, you can learn romantic communication techniques for building better bonds and develop strategies for remaining close through the distance.
• Give Back
  Offer your spouse a unique token of your appreciation and love. Give a gift that says you’ll adore them no matter what. Let them know you see everything they do and are grateful for it. You can present the gift during an event or hand it off privately when you get a second together.
  
  Make it a souvenir of your passion or an indication of your intent. Give a new sex toy, pleasure accessory, or couple’s device to remind your lover of what’s waiting on the other side of the schedule. This can help lift their spirits or provide much-needed energy for the hustle and bustle.

Prepping for the Rush

You can have terrific intentions but drop the ball because you’re unprepared. Here are three tips for getting ready to get busy (pun intended):

• Buy Personal Lubricant – High-quality lube soothes the skin and protects it from friction. Have more satisfying quickies without waiting for your body to respond.
• Pick Up Cleaning Supplies – Create an aftercare kit for fooling around with your spouse. It should include wipes, water, sex toy cleaner, and other supplies for erasing the evidence.
• Practice Until It’s Perfect – Your first attempt to integrate intimacy into a busy schedule might backfire. Keep trying until you find a method that works.