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Sex in Marriage is Meant to be a Treat from God
The quick version
- Scripture frames intimacy in marriage as a sweet, God-given gift — not merely a means to an end.
- The Song of Solomon celebrates pleasure and delight between a husband and wife, never reducing intimacy to procreation alone.
- God gives married couples three layered gifts: one another, the joy of physical love, and, in His timing, children.
- This is a treat to be stewarded, guarded, enjoyed, and shared together — for your good and His glory.
October is a wonderful season for cooler air, falling leaves, and pumpkin spice — and yes, the inevitable conversations about treats. While we don't condone any form of pagan worship, we love the simple goodness of handing out something sweet, and we cherish the family fellowship of our church's seasonal gatherings.
But treats during this season aren't only for the little ones. We thought we'd mark this "sweet" time of year by celebrating a different kind of treat altogether: the intimacy God gives a Christian married couple. We believe you're meant to honor one another with your bodies and to keep growing your closeness together — no matter the time of year.
Kisses sweeter than wine
What better place to begin than with the most tender book in all of Scripture?
Kisses more delightful than the finest wine — this is the opening movement of the dance that is married love. A kiss is small, but it carries warmth, invitation, and tenderness. What sweeter treat could there be than the closeness of a kiss freely shared between husband and wife?
Designed for delight
Across the whole of the Song of Solomon — the most sensual book in the Bible — there is no mention of childbearing when it speaks of intimacy. Its focus is something else entirely: the joyful, passionate delight a husband and wife find in one another. That tells us something beautiful. Intimacy in marriage was never meant to be only a route to having children; it is also a gift to be savored for its own sake.
And it is far more than physical. The closeness God gives a married couple weaves together body, heart, and spirit — a true becoming-one that touches every part of who you are.
Three treats from God
Your spouse
From the very beginning, God made a companion for Adam — someone fit for him in body and in spirit.
Scripture goes on to call this a genuine blessing: "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22, ESV). And in Mark 10:8–9, Jesus reminds us, "the two shall become one flesh… What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate." What a gift it is to see your husband or wife as a treat handed to you by God — and to honor them by truly delighting in them.
The joy of becoming one
Sometimes the union of a married couple is simply a joyful expression of love in and of itself — no other purpose required. God designed that closeness to be enjoyed, and there is no shame in receiving it as the good gift it is.
Try this: Set the stage for unhurried time together. A warm-lit room with a softly scented candle, a little music, and no clocks to watch can turn an ordinary evening into something you both look forward to.
The blessing of children
At other times, that same closeness becomes the doorway to new life — another gift from God to be cherished. "God blessed them. And God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth'" (Genesis 1:28, ESV). Whether your intimacy is purely a celebration of love or the beginning of a family, both are good, and both are His.
One-ness is a treat
We believe God designed intimacy in marriage to be a treat husbands and wives give one another. Our prayer is that you and your spouse come to know this closeness as one of the sweetest gifts God offers — something to steward, guard, enjoy, and share together for your good and His glory.
If you'd like gentle, tasteful ways to nurture that closeness, you're welcome to explore our shelves of Christian intimacy products made with married couples in mind, or to keep reading along with our Christian marriage blog.
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Written with love by the Romantic Blessings team to help married couples explore intimacy thoughtfully and joyfully. Questions? We’re only an email away.
