How to Shop for a Sex Toy

You do not have to be a sex toy expert to shop like one. Just follow these seven easy steps instead.

STEP ONE: Explore the Different Types

Did you know that dildos and vibrators only account for a small percentage of the total sex toy market? There are so many more options, and these are just a few of them for starters:

Usually, products such as performance poles, massaging oils, and positioning furniture are purchased alongside the toys described above. Those items are not, however, considered “sex toys” per say.

STEP TWO: Consider Your Desires

You buy sex toys because you want to feel good, so make sure you’re successful at that by understanding your own desires. Be honest with yourself. Think about what your ideal evening would look like and then find devices that can help you recreate the vision.

STEP THREE: Communicate with Your Partner

It’s important to speak with your spouse before buying a new sex toy. You don’t necessarily have to ruin the surprise, but at least have a conversation about wishes and expectations ahead of time. Find out what makes your partner tick and then go from there.

STEP FOUR: Look at the Dimensions

Size matters. So, the length, girth, and weight of any sex toy will determine how much pleasure you and/or your spouse derive from it. Think of these three factors for a clearer picture of what to buy:

Your experience with that particular type of toy.

Your threshold for discomfort and pain.

Your ideal scenario.

Keep in mind that you should start small with new devices and techniques. Also, go slow and respect the initial learning curve.

STEP FIVE: Consider the Features

Your favorite toy’s features dictate what can and can’t be done with that device. It’s okay to let your imagination run wild; just make sure to buy a toy that can keep up with you. Become familiar with the most common features so you can navigate the ever-expanding marketplace.

STEP SIX: Know What to Seek

Rule number one: Look for high-end features but don’t let the price tag fool you. Seek skin-safe materials first and foremost, then concentrate on things like ergonomics and battery life next. Smart buys have user-friendly interfaces, come with clear instructions, and are typically accompanied by informative, transparent marketing.

STEP SEVEN: Know What to Avoid

Try to avoid pleasure products containing parabens, phthalates, and/or latex, especially if you have a known allergy or sensitive skin. Also, stay away from toys that are too extreme because using them frequently could cause acute desensitization.

NOTE: Never buy a sex toy that’s packaged poorly, and avoid devices that are dirty, damaged, or lacking contact information.